High and low impact emotions
The high and low impact implies constant movements in our state of mind that allow it to move freely. For example, if we had a graph we would see how emotions move from the “ceiling” to the “floor” avoiding the midpoints.
So these relationships provoke emotions and feelings that are characterized by being:
– Powerful: since they are emotions that move in dimensions that are not characterized by stability, on the contrary, they are unpredictable and do not allow us to establish a routine. So that the good is “extremely” pleasant and vice versa when an unpleasant situation occurs. It focuses on expectations of passionate love that chemically alter our brain and temporarily cloud our capacity for critical judgment.
– Ambivalent: this constant tirade causes us emotional instability that allows emotions to express themselves at their peak as we saw in the previous section. The doubt about what to do and the risk we take makes the situation even more attractive.
– Prohibited: we live in a mainly monogamous society in which these situations of having the same level of feeling and commitment to two people at the same time is “unviable” so it would be a “prohibited” situation, which adds more excitement to the relationship.
At the same time that we enjoy the development of the plot and how the protagonist experiences his ambivalence, we also long for an ending. An outcome in which he definitely chooses one of his two loves, this is necessary since this emotional state is exhausting and is not sustainable for a long time due to the stress it produces. This choice, with multiple possibilities, will allow you to adapt to a routine and for the emotional charge to be stable again.
However, do you know that this is not the only love triangle out there?
Regardless of the type of sentimental relationship that you decide to establish, and that is totally free, there is a theory that establishes the concept of love on a triangular basis.
Robert Sternberg postulated the “Triangular Theory of Love” in which he established what are the components of love:
KEYS TO LOVE
For this author, we can distinguish three components within a sentimental interaction:
1. Passion: refers to the desire they feel for each other, the need for contact and closeness with the other person. It manifests itself in the form of uncontrolled energy that is difficult to stop with great psychophysiological stimulation.
2. Intimacy: refers to the connection between the two people, the desire to meet and feel close emotionally. It manifests itself in the form of friendship, affection and concern for the other.
3. Commitment: involves forming a love story, consciously deciding to share your life with that other person who complements you by sharing a life project.
So, according to this theory, if you want to have a “Complete Love” the ingredients of your relationship would focus on passion, intimacy and commitment.
Do you have them all?